The prostate — the “P-spot” — is capable of deep, full-body pleasure that a lot of people never get around to exploring. It’s not complicated; it just asks for the same patience as any anal play. Here’s the friendly version. (For choosing a specific toy, see our companion guide on how to choose a prostate massager.)
Where it is, and what to expect
The prostate is a small walnut-sized gland a couple of inches inside, towards the front of the body (belly side). Pressure on it gives a deeper, warmer, fuller sensation than external stimulation — different, and for many people more intense.
Getting ready
- Relax and warm up. Arousal first makes everything easier. Never go in cold — literally or figuratively.
- Lube is essential. Use plenty of a dedicated anal lube, and reapply.
- A quick trip to the loo and a wash beforehand is all the prep most people need.
How to find it
Aim towards the front wall (belly side) and use a gentle “come here” curl. A purpose-made prostate massager does this for you — its curve is shaped to reach the spot without effort, and many are hands-free once in place. Start with slow, gentle pressure rather than fast movement.
Take your time
The prostate often responds to steady, patient pressure rather than speed. Combine it with other stimulation if you like, breathe, and let it build. There’s no schedule.
Common questions
✦ Where is the prostate and how do I reach it?
A couple of inches inside, towards the front (belly side). Aim that way with a gentle “come here” motion — a curved prostate massager is shaped to reach it easily.
✦ What toy is best for prostate play as a beginner?
A purpose-made, curved prostate massager with a flared base — comfortable, correctly shaped and often hands-free. How to choose one.
✦ Does prostate play require special lube?
Yes — use plenty of dedicated anal lube, which is thicker and longer-lasting, and reapply. Anal lube here.