Toys aren’t a one-sided affair. A good stroker feels nothing like a hand; a cock ring can make things firmer and last longer; an app-controlled thruster hands the reins to a partner across the room. The trick is matching the toy to what you’re actually after.

Here’s a solid starting line-up, from an easy first stroker to a proper bit of kit.

Strokers, rings or pumps — what’s the difference?

A stroker (or masturbator) is a textured sleeve you move by hand or that vibrates — it’s about sensation. A cock ring gently restricts blood flow for a firmer, longer-lasting erection and can add a partner-pleasing buzz. A pump draws blood in for temporary size and firmness. Different jobs — plenty of people own more than one.

Choosing your first male toy

If you’re new, a simple stroker is the easiest and cheapest place to start. Prefer something you share? A vibrating cock ring is couple-friendly. Water-based lube is essential with any stroker — it makes or breaks the feel.