Anal play is far more common — and far less complicated — than the internet would have you believe. The essentials are the same whatever you choose: start small, use more lube than you think, and only use toys with a flared base or a retrieval loop or ring.

Below are gentle, well-made picks to start with, from simple beads to a comfortable first plug, plus honest answers to the questions everyone has.

How do I start with anal play?

Slowly, and with lube. Begin with something small — beads or a slim plug — relax, and never rush. A warm bath first helps. If anything hurts, stop; discomfort is a signal, not a hurdle to push through.

Do I need a special lube?

Lube is essential here — the area doesn’t self-lubricate. A water-based lube is the safe all-rounder (and fine with silicone toys); a thicker, dedicated anal lube such as our aloe anal lube stays slick for longer.